Looking Presentable For Women
Controlling the way you look, smell and sound during everyday life is vitally important if
you want to appear attractive to women. Your physical appearance, I.E., your face, body
type, etc.
DO NOT matter nearly as much to the female population as the type of clothes
you wear, the cologne you use and the shoes you walk in. The reason for this lies in a
simple word, a word you’ll hear time and time again when reading about the kind of
seduction principles that actually work.
It is control. Women subconsciously place more
value in a man that has control over the things around him than a guy who appears to
have little to no say over the way he’s perceived or treated. Sure, a guy who got lucky
with his genes, who happens to look like Brad Pitt or George Clooney (or whoever else is
flavour of the month) is going to get stared at and admired by women. But the man who
can earn admiration and respect because of the choices he makes (I.E. how he chooses
to present himself in both his appearance and attitude) will always, always, always be
given respect by those around him – men and women.
With social value comes personal worth. And it’s personal worth coupled with social
value (the fact that men and women respect and look up to your dominant presence)
that leads to attraction in the minds of the opposite sex. But remember, this is an
Understructure we’re talking about here. Dressing well alone won’t secure you any more
female attention than it will the guy down the street. But it is, nevertheless, a
fundamental you need to have in place. Then, and only then, can you create an edge
over your competition by using the kind of advanced psychology they’ve never even
heard of, let alone actually used to seduce women. Follow the 4 rules of positive
appearance below to ensure you have in place the fundamental base I’ve just described.
1. Women are social creatures by their very nature. They look to popular trends and
contemporary public preferences much more than most men. So, give them something
to notice and find attractive in the clothes you wear. Look at popular current style
magazines for a good idea of what’s considered fashionable and trendy and follow suit
yourself. Unless you really want to create a wacky or individual style that could possibly
help attract women to you out of curiosity, don’t push the boat out too far. Go for a
balance of smart/casual gear with clean lines and only one bright colour per outfit.
2. These days women love telling men what they think they’re doing wrong when it
comes to choosing clothes and generally presenting themselves. Something that’s
pointed out really frequently by women, especially if you’ve made the mistake of asking,
is the kind of shoes you wear. Now, what goes on our feet really doesn’t make any
difference in the big scheme of things, but enough women have told enough other
women that our footwear is an accurate representation of our personalities, so
ironically – it now can make a bit of a difference. So, avoid getting caught out by a girl
(or, more often, the girl you’re hitting on’s loyal friend who’s judging you on her behalf)
by wearing clean shoes that match your outfit. It doesn’t matter who they’re made by or
how much they cost. A good-looking pair of black shoes is enough to dissuade any picky
girl from dismissing you simply based on your choice of footwear.
3. The principles above, of not giving a girl the opportunity to criticize the choices you’ve
made when it comes to presenting yourself, apply to your hair as well. It might sound
dull or obvious, but it’s true. If you don’t want to worry about getting and maintaining a
nutty haircut that’ll draw crowds from the next town, just keep it simple and neat. Your
real power and influence is in the techniques you’ll use to psychologically and
subconsciously create rapport and attraction between yourself and the girl, so avoid
putting them off before you have a chance to unleash your array of advanced material
by going to the hairdressers when it’s necessary and shaving in whatever way is right to
make your face look its very best.
Getting Women To Like You
Getting Women to Like You
Now that we have determined what type of woman that you like and you know where to go to get her, it’s time to put the moves on. Ok, “moves” only work on movies. Instead, we will discuss some real and effective ways to get women to notice and even like you enough to give you their number and return your phone calls.
1. Be Confident: Confidence is key with women. Cocky is even kind of nice. Conceit, will get you ignored. Some good examples of properly striking this balance are Bruce Willis or Denzel Washington. They have a certain swagger that women find attractive. Women like men that can control a situation, but who don’t try to control them. Men like Joey Buttafuco or David Hasselhoff are not the kind of men that make women swoon. They come across as conceited and for no good reason.
2. Be Sincere: Women respond to men who are sincere. Now, this doesn’t mean sappy. Women dislike sappy with a passion. Instead, sincerity is an appropriate sense of openness and honesty. It shows that you are comfortable enough with who you are, that you don’t have to try not to mask the real you with niceties or bluster. Besides, a woman likes a guy who is true to his word. Faking being respectful, thoughtful or kind is a big turnoff.
3. Forget the Lines: Ok, unless you are a sixteen year old boy, lines simply don’t work. They come across as insincere and fake. Women will also assume that you are a flirt or worst yet, a player. Now, if you don’t care about the quality of woman that you attract, go crazy with the lines. But if you want a lady with a good head on her shoulders, ditch the lines. Now if you and a girl have gotten past the niceties and are having a good, fun conversation you can throw a line or two in there as jest. But only to keep the laughs going. Let her know that you are just kidding around.
4. Deal with Rejection: If you are going to come on to women, you have to get comfortable with rejection. And while you will never learn to enjoy it, you must learn to deal with it. I know that this is cliché, but try not to take it personable. Just view it as her knocking herself out of the running to make room for the right person. However, the only way that you can get to this point is if you are confident in yourself. Make a quick inventory of your strengths and repeat them to yourself before you approach a woman and especially after she rejects you. Don’t dwell on it. Move on to the next woman.
5. Be Sure: Now nothing is more unattractive to a woman then for her to see you trying to flirt with every woman in the room. So take your time, before you decide to pounce. Be sure that the particular woman that you have your eye on is the one that you want to go after. If women see you going from female to female, constantly getting rejected, she will definitely not bother giving you the time of day.
6. Stay Focused: Once you have started dating a woman, stay focused. Unless you both have an agreement to see other people, don’t assume that either she won’t find out, or that she won’t care. Most women do care. There is nothing worst, then getting busted trying to juggle 2 or more women. Now, you don’t have to ask her to marry you after 2 weeks, but try to stay focused on one woman at a time. Women find commitment attractive. This is why so many women hit on married men or men in relationships.
7. Don’t Show you’re Hand Too Fast: Once you have her interested in you, don’t show your hand too fast. This means no “I love you,” during the first couple of weeks, or asking her to marry you. You also shouldn’t try to monopolize her time or to suddenly become controlling. This is a major turnoff and a quick way to get your phone calls ignored.
8. Don’t Be So Serious: Women love a guy with a sense of humour. Now, don’t confuse having a sense of humour with being irresponsible. But be able to be self-deprecating, and to laugh at yourself or make light of a situation. Few things are more attractive then a guy that can laugh and that can make her laugh. Being able to generate a good belly laugh will allow you to trump a guy who may be better looking, have a better job, or make more money. Just as food as the way to a guy’s heart, laughter, in many cases, is the way to a woman’s heart.
Meeting women is only part of the equation. One you have met them, you have to convince them that you are worth keeping around. You can accomplish this by being confident, being sincere, having a sense of humour, staying focused and taking your time. Also, forget about the “lines.” A simple compliment or relevant conversation will be much more effective. If you follow these simple guidelines you will find that women are much more receptive to you and much more willing to allow you stick around. If you keep it up, there is no telling just how far things might go.
Time Limiting Techniques.
Time Limiter #1 – With Friends: It wouldn’t make sense to start up a conversation
with a girl only to mention that you can’t talk for long – unless, that is, you have a good
reason to begin the chat. Check out the next section (3 ways to open naturally) for ideas
on how to kick off proceedings with your female of choice. Once you have the ‘reason’ to
talk to her in mind, you can use the ‘with friends’ time limiter, which goes along the
following lines:
“Hi. I’m here with a few friends [gesture in their direction if you’re actually out with your
buddies or round the corner or somewhere out of sight if you’re in fact by yourself]. But,
I was wondering if you could help me out with something real quick… [Then move into
your planned opening topic]”
If you’re in a place where being with friends wouldn’t make much sense, like a library or
supermarket, try using the next example:
Time Limiter #2 – Planned Appointment: This one’s good because you don’t, as in
the first limiter, have to mention people that perhaps don’t strictly exist or, more likely,
aren’t with you at that time (if that’s any concern). It goes something like:
“Oh, hi. I’m just going to meet a friend but I was wondering if you could help me out
first. It might sound a little strange but… [Then move into your planned opening topic].”
The best way of using time limiters is to make up your own while bearing the following in
mind:
1. Time limiters are most effective when they subtly highlight your social worth.
Needing to make a call, meet a friend or get back to the group of buddies you’re
out with are all good ways of suggesting just that.
2. Customise your time limiter to match the location and situation you’re in. So, to
use the example I just mentioned again, saying you’ve got to get back to some
friends waiting for you on aisle 3 of the supermarket would sound unrealistic and
pretty dumb. Instead, it’d be much better to slip in the fact that you’re on a
super-fast rush-around shop, because you’ve got to be somewhere in a little
while.
Something along those lines is much more effective because it establishes
your social worth, lets her know she’s not stuck talking to you for ages if you
don’t get on and at the same time matches the situation you’re both in.
The last thing to say about time limiters is how to get out of them when things are going
particularly well with the girl you’re talking to. After all, the goal wasn’t just to talk to
her, get her attracted to you then ditch her for some imaginary friend.
Fortunately,
dealing with this small issue is easy. You have two options.
The first is to actually finish
the conversation and return to your waiting friends or pretend to go to whatever
appointment you made-up, but to swap numbers with the girl before parting (we’ll cover
the best way to do this later). Taking this option usually works beautifully because the
conversation you had was short, fresh and enjoyable – not long, boring, hard-work for
both of you.
The second option is best used when you feel you haven’t yet built up
enough of a connection or established enough attraction in the girl’s mind to get her
number or arrange to meet again. So, your goal is give yourself more time to achieve
those goals. Completely forget about the time limiter and continue talking to her and
working your magic. If she mentions that call you had to make or place you said you had
to go, brush it off with: “Oh, they’ll wait.” Or “I don’t know, I think I’d rather talk to
you.” Or “It’ll be OK.”
Keep it super short and somewhat evasive.
Introduction To Time Limiting
Time limitation is a great technique to use when you’re actively out playing the seduction
game. Its benefits are three-fold – each one powerful and advantageous in its own right.
Before we look at how time limitation gives you the upper hand, let’s first go over what
the technique consists of.
A time limiter is a specially constructed statement that casually and believably
introduces a reason why you probably can’t stop and chat for very long with the girl
you’re attempting to pick-up. On the surface, the idea of limiting how long you spend
with the girl seems like a crazy concept, after all, surely the best way of forming a
connection and establishing sexual chemistry with a girl is by talking to her for as long
as you can, to give yourself the largest possible chance of making something happen.
In real-life, though, this isn’t the case; you’re actually much better off using time limitation.
You’ll quickly see why this is the case when you know the benefits time limiters offer.
Benefit #1: When a guy randomly approaches a girl, especially if she hasn’t be
wide/narrow-casting, she’ll often automatically realise in her subconscious the underlying
reason for his interest (especially if she’s hot/has high social worth).
When a girl realises a guy is after only one thing it’s like the gates of persuasion will be spontaneously shut -
or least left barely ajar. To put it simply, your job is made much harder.
After all, the girl wants to maintain control and keep her social worth. Submitting to your advances would
make her look easy (if she’s in public) and feel like easy pickings (whether there are
people around or not). By introducing a time limiter you give the impression that you
aren’t initially overly interested in her and that you have other things to be doing and
getting on with.
Any feeling of manipulation or exploitation is instantly eradicated in the
mind of the female.
Benefit #2: The second advantage offered by time limiters is that they allow you to
exhibit your own social value and dominance. The benefit of this is clear when you break
down the following opposing possibilities:
A: A guy walks up to a girl and starts up a conversation. He seems to have all the time
in the world, nowhere he needs to go and nobody he needs to see. This girl, a stranger
he’s only just met, seems to be his number one priority.
B: A guy casually begins a conversation with a girl but mentions a valid reason he can’t
talk to her for long. It’s clear this guy’s day is planned – there are people he needs to
see and things he needs to get done.
Even if both guys talk about the same things in the same way, the fact that the second
guy introduced a time limiter at the start of the conversation puts him on top. He has
the first benefit (avoiding triggering a negative reaction in the girl’s mind because of
what she thinks he might be up to), the second benefit (he’s exhibited his own social
value and dominance and, of course, the final benefits that follows.
Benefit #3: This advantage is short but sweet and makes perfect sense when you think
about it. By introducing a time limiter at the start of the conversation, as well as reaping
the benefits above, you allow yourself an easy Plan B if things don’t go as well as you’d
hoped.
Usually when a chat dies or fizzles out, you have to mumble a quick reason you
need to get going and leave. But even if it’s a good one it’s pretty likely she’ll realise the
real reason you’re heading off. With a time limiter in place, your exit – if you do end up
taking it – is already set in place ready to be used, all it takes is a quick and easy
reference to whatever it is you used a time limiter at the start of the conversation.
Introducing Yourself To Women
I talked earlier about how important good first impressions are in aiding successful
seduction and you then learnt the best way to approach a girl in regards to your
proximity, direction and body language. Now we’re onto the main substance of the first
impression: the actual opener, the beginning of the conversation that – by the time it’s
over – will have the girl lusting after you and your continued attention.
So I don’t mind saying that getting the conversation opener just right is critical to your overall success.
Before looking at 3 great ways to open, let’s first go over a few absolute no-no’s – things
so many guys choose to do when they open with a girl and subsequently the reasons so
many fall flat on their faces. They’re the most common mistakes made by guys hoping to
form a good first impression.
1. Packaged Pick-up Lines
A pick-up line is predetermined way of opening that attempts to fuse flirtatiousness with
wit in just a sentence or two. We all know a few and some of them are actually pretty
funny – but that’s where their list positive attributes ends.
You see, pick-up lines are
most guys’ idea of what a girl would like to hear as the first thing uttered by a man
who’s approached her. In reality, pick-up lines stand out a mile in women’s minds as
what they are: a method of breaking the ice with the sole intention of getting into their
panties later on.
A tiny minority of women don’t mind this (they usually have some
strange reason for wanting to hook-up with guys, such as a weird inferiority complex
that needs attention, or they’re just sluts who make a sport out bedding men). Either
way, pick-up lines are only as powerful as the person that’s using them. And if you have
the power to make a corny pick-up line work, using one as your primary opener is the
last thing you want to do.
You’ll have infinitely more success using one of the 3 examples of good openers that follow or even one of your own design that conforms to
the general structure of a good opening topic/technique.
2. Buying drinks, giving compliments and doing favours.
You can guarantee that somewhere in the world, at any given time, there is a guy
offering to buy a girl a drink or telling her she looks beautiful in an attempt to get her to
like and feel attracted to him. The reason it’s such a commonly used ploy by men is
because on the surface it seems like a great idea: “If I tell her she looks good or pay for
her bill she’ll see that I’m a kind guy and she’s bound to like me. After all, if someone
paid me a compliment or did something equally nice, I’d be flattered.”
Avoid using compliments when you open, buying drinks and doing favours like the
plague – they serve no productive purpose.
3. “Don’t I know you?”
This method of opening (really just a pick-up line masquerading as an opener), isn’t an
instant killer, but is instead usually a slow-burning path to failure. Lots of guys use it to introduce themselves to a girl they’d like to get talking to.
They’ll say: “Do I know you?
You look familiar.” Women, however, being much more adept at facial recognition than
men, know instantly that they have not met you before, which is what lands you in icy
waters 5 seconds after you’ve opened. Some guys can make this method of opening
work, but it’s their skill at turning a stone-cold situation into a sizzling conversation that
does the trick, and not the initial “Don’t I know you?” line. So, once again, avoid it.
Women don’t mind talking to a guy they don’t know if it feels right – in fact, you being a
stranger they slowly fall in love with over a drink is infinitely more powerful than posing
as someone they might have met before and spending the next hour trying to convince
them of that fact to therefore validate your presence.
So, that’s how not to open and how not to make a good first impression.
The Art Of Approaching Women
Here’s where the really interesting stuff starts: the approach/opening is the first phase of
seduction in which you come into contact with the girl by entering her proximity – as
such, it’s crucial you get it right. As they always say: “You never get a second chance to
make a first impression.” And in the pick-up game, good first impressions are often
critical to your overall success. That’s because people automatically make snap
judgement when they meet others and it’s usually pretty tricky to back-peddle your
way out of a poor initial impression. Most people think good impressions are pretty easy to make most of the time, and they’re right. Smile, be courteous, don’t show off, don’t pick your nose…simple rules. But
a good approach and opener in seduction isn’t like a positive first impression at a job
interview. In the pick-up game, the psychology is a whole lot more complex and
therefore requires a completely different set of social rules and psychological techniques
to get it right. We’re dealing with hot women here, remember, not many things are more
challenging to conquer than them – unless, that is, you know what you’re doing…and
you’re about to.
Before looking at how to verbally ‘open’ (that is, start a conversation), we’re going to
look at some highly important concepts that involve spatial awareness, direction, body
language, and the subliminal psychology that goes along with each. I cannot stress how
useful these simple, yet practically unheard of principles are when learnt and applied to
real-life encounters with the opposite sex. So let’s go…
Advanced Proximity Principles
A proximity principle – when applied to seduction – is a concept that takes into
consideration how close or far away you physically are from a girl or group of girls. The
reason proximity principles are important is simply because we all subconsciously use
them when we’re around friends, family and strangers. To put it simply, your proximity
to a girl during each of stage of the pick-up affects the final outcome of your encounter
and the overall success of your seduction attempt. It happens because people, women
especially, are acutely aware of how close others around them are and most importantly,
whether or not they’re invading their personal space without “permission.”
Before looking at the specific ways you can use your proximity to enhance your
seduction skills, we first need to establish what most people’s personal space is.
Flanking
We may have come a long way since the days when we used bits of flint to make fire
and threw spears to kill boars, but some things never change. One thing that hasn’t
disappeared or even evolved much is our subconscious sense of danger and
vulnerability, which often shows itself in social situations. Flanking is a method of
approaching a girl that effectively avoids tripping her danger/vulnerability switch by
approaching her from the side and not from behind or head-on. So, when possible,
always use flanking to ensure you don’t subliminally intimidate or scare away a girl
before you’ve even had the chance to properly start up a conversation.
Proximity and Body Language Manipulation
This set of principles is highly effective and very powerful when used in conjunction with
other seduction techniques, although very few men have ever heard of the concept of
proximity and body language manipulation, let alone used it to boost their chances with
the ladies.
The first thing to bear in mind is that women are attracted, on the whole, to socially
high-ranking individuals. This does NOT mean they only go for bankers, millionaires and
male models, though.
It means they are naturally drawn to men that have elevated social worth, that are in high demand but low in number. Confident, engaging men that know how to control the people they meet and situations they find themselves in with a
natural ease – regardless of what their last bank statement said, the car they drive or
what they work as – are universally lusted after by the female sex.
So, when a man
exhibits the traits of someone who doesn’t have high social currency, girls look
elsewhere for a guy that does – if she finds one, you’re essentially outranked and
therefore out of the picture. If she doesn’t find one, you still stand a marginal chance,
but only if she – for whatever reason – is in the mood to have her ego enlarged a little
further by you.
Confidence And Control
Easy come, easy go – anything that’s available in abundance or able to be obtained with
little to no effort is naturally going to be given a lower overall value in people’s minds
than something that’s rare or hard to find. Women don’t go weak at the knees at the
prospect of being approached by the average guy because of the very fact that he’s
average – any girl could get the same guy’s attention and that doesn’t say much for her
social value or worth. Now the flipside of the coin, what women do find attractive and do relish when it
happens: Being approached by a guy that – as I’ve described before - is in control,
confident and not falling at her feet, submitting to her every whim. So, your aim is to
create this kind of highly attractive and rare persona.
In short, be the guy who, without
appearing arrogant or stuck-up, isn’t engrossed or bowled over by every pretty girl who
crosses his path. You’re indifferent, just as you should be until they have earned
something more. It works both ways and women do it all the time. It’s the only way the
people with the highest personal worth and social value (who, if they’re female, just so
happen to usually be 9 or 10’s on the looks scale) hook-up.
Okay, how do you construct a persona that exudes an effortless and relaxed attitude
when it comes to talking to women? Well, first you use the previous technique, proximity
and body language manipulation, to restrict massaging their ego until the right time.
Second, you expertly withhold personal information to further maintain control of the
situation and to create an alluring sense of mystery in regards to who you are and what
you’re about. It’s a simple 2 step process:
Step 1: Never, under any circumstances, open/start a conversation with a girl by
introducing yourself using your name, what you do or anything else that’s personal.
Doing so immediately sends a poor psychological message to the girl: Sure, you’re
friendly, but you’ve handed her control of the situation on a plate.
It’s now up to her
whether or not she responds with her own name or personal information. You can avoid
this entirely by opening with a neutral yet well-chosen topic (in a later section we’ll look
at 3 great ways to do this), doing so keeps the balance of control long enough for you to
build good rapport with the girl and get her interested, which leads nicely onto step two
of this technique.
Step 2: By withholding the kind information most guys give out willy-nilly to girls when
they first meet them, you’re silently achieving three things: first, you’re subliminally
saying that you’re not infatuated with the girl enough to give her any personal details
without her first giving you something back (same goes with proximity and body
language).
Second, you’re helping build a sense of mystery around yourself. As the
conversation goes from strength to strength, the girl is still in the dark when it comes to
knowing even your first name. She only knows what you’ve chosen to tell her along the
way, and you’ve only really done that because you happened to be talking about it at the
time.
And lastly, to pack the final and most hard-hitting psychological punch, you’re able
to tell her your name as the last thing you do before parting with her phone number or
arranging a time and place you’re both going to meet again. This takes advantage of a
well-known but not often used subconscious psychological principle called ‘The Law of
Recency’ – in essence, what we hear, see or experience last sticks out most prominently
in our minds when we think back later on. Your name, as the last thing she hears, is
written indelibly in her mind, linked positively with the great conversation and
experience you shared together, perfect for when you next meet.
The Science Of Body Language
I’m not going to bore you with the history of non-verbal communication, or the
generalisations most people assume are grounded in truth but in fact couldn’t be further
from it.
We’re going to run through the bare essentials, the things you really ought to
know back to front if you always want to be sure of what women are thinking and feeling
and simultaneously how you are representing yourself through the silent message you
constantly transmit through the way you stand, sit and move.
First, the two broad categories that together form a massive side of non-verbal
communication: closed body language & open body language.
Closed Body Language
As you already know, people subconsciously let slip what they’re feeling and thinking
through external movements of their bodies. Everyone does this, all day, every day.
By looking out for special types of non-verbal communication, we men can get a good idea
of what women want (or think they want) and also how they feel about what they’re
experiencing at any given time. Closed body language is used when people feel
uncomfortable, on-edge or intimidated by the situation they’re in and/or the person or
persons they’re interacting with. Here are the key types of closed body language:
Body orientation: In conversation, the way we face the person we’re talking to can
often give a good indication of how we feel about them and the discussion in
general. Facing the other person head-on/directly shows we’re comfortable with
them, whereas orientating our bodies away from them, at an angle, is usually a
strong indication that we’re feeling uncomfortable, disinterested or bored – or even a
combination of all 3. When playing the seduction game, body orientation can be used
to tell both how a girl is feeling before you approach them, during and after you’ve
interacted, and as a method of psychological persuasion on your part (we’ll cover
this later).
Defence signals: Another way people subconsciously show that they’re anxious,
uncomfortable or just silently wishing someone would get lost, is through the use of
defence signals. These take two forms: object defence signals and body defence
signals. The first involves using a prop of some sort to put up a defensive wall
between yourself and the person you feel negatively/neutrally towards. A great
example of an object defence signal, that you’re likely to see repeatedly while doing
pick-ups, is when people hold their drinks in front of their chests while standing
around talking. Body defence signals, on the other hand, are used when a prop isn’t
able to be found or when people are too nervous to hide their anxiousness effectively.
A couple of the most common body defence signals are the ‘self-hug’,
which is when someone will hold one arm with the other in a sort of one-armed,
loose embrace.
Or, there’s always the old classic: crossed arms. However, most
people these days are well aware of how crossed arms are interpreted by onlookers
(as a sign of defence) so typically use other defence signals subconsciously instead,
such as object defence signals and the one-armed self-hug.
Bear this in mind when
you’re analyzing how women are feeling by looking at their physical body language.
Lastly, there’s fiddling with things. It’s vital you can tell the difference between
fiddling due to nerves and fiddling as a method of silent flirtation. For now, simply
remember that any fiddling that helps form an invisible barrier (such as playing with
a shirt button or twiddling a zipper by reaching across their body) is a good indicator
of nerves and anxiousness.
Having The Right Attitude
Having the correct attitude is usually what separates men who try and successfully
seduce women but quickly give up, from the guys out there that try, persevere and
succeed – time and time again – at hooking up with really attractive girls with fun
personalities.
Before I lay out the basic rules, it’s important you understand what kind of attitude we’re
talking about. Boiled right down, your attitude is your outlook on yourself, other people
(both the women you seek and the men that make up the competition) and the
situations you find yourself in. So, attitude - in the sense we’re focussing on - isn’t how
you act or behave, it is how you think and understand.
1. Proper Perspective. The first thing to realise and always bear in mind is that having
the right kind of outlook on the ‘game’ of seduction, and your overall success with
women, is really important and directly relates to how successful you will ultimately be
with the ladies. So, always try to avoid the goal of being a master seducer from
becoming your main, unchanging focus. Because men whose lives revolve around
studying, practising and obsessing over the game of seduction usually tend to lose out
not too far down the road. Instead, keep a relaxed attitude towards the whole thing.
Make improving your ability with women just another one of your hobbies. That doesn’t
mean you shouldn’t try hard to practice and perform pick-up techniques, though, just
that doing so should never take over your life and subsequently destroy your chances of
being successful.
So, stay focussed but at the same time relaxed and calm about improving your overall
ability with women. Doing so, as you’ll soon discover, actually tends to help your
chances and boost your abilities – because there’s nothing more attractive to a woman
than a guy who does things effortlessly.
2. Playing the numbers game. Just for a minute, imagine yourself as a brand, a
product, as a commodity. If you don’t properly expose yourself and what you have to
offer to your target market (which is women), you can never, ever expect to be have
success with them. As such, you HAVE to play the numbers game. To guys just starting
out, this can seem a little daunting, but as they, and we all, come to realise, it’s a vital
part of the process. Luckily, it’s a pretty simple set of principles.
A. Even when you have the advantage of knowing advanced seduction techniques (which
we’ll look at soon), you still have to actually use them to be successful. Makes basic
sense when you put it like that, but you wouldn’t believe how many men learn the
science behind effortless seduction but never make the effort to go out there and
actually do it. They assume that women will flock to them like moths to a flame, but they
don’t and won’t. So, play the game and make a conscious and consistent effort to go out
there and use what you’ve learnt and are yet to learn. Put it into practice by setting
aside certain hours of certain days/evenings as specific times when you’ll have a go at
building rapport and attraction with at least five different women. If five’s too many at
first, do one, then three, then five.
B. The kind of practice described above is most useful when analyzed afterwards. You
don’t need to draw graphs or do advanced calculations to know what went down well and
what didn’t, or to see where and what you need to practice more and the things you
already do well. So, after each night – whether you were successful or not – think about
what happened and mentally note what you need to improve on and also pat yourself on
the back for the things you did well. Most guys don’t have the balls to try the things you
do, which is why the super-low level of success most guys have with women really
comes as no surprise.
3. Staying Positive. Lastly and maybe most importantly, always try to stay upbeat and
positive. Doing so not only helps keep you motivated (which is how any kind of success
tends to come about) but also rubs off on the girls you meet. Your positivity and carefree
attitude is picked up on and therefore helps boost your value in their mind and create an
attraction for you in their subconscious.
Advanced Scoping Techniques
Knowing how to scope is a vital part of being successful with women. Most men, as I
mentioned in the introduction, choose the women they approach based on three simple
bits of criteria: how attractive the girl is, how intimidating she/her crowd appear to be,
and whether or not they feel they have the balls to go up to her and try it on. By using
these prerequisites, the only thing most men accomplish or establish is that they are
interested in the girl, and NOT that the girl is interested in them – or, for that matter,
anyone.
Advanced scoping solves this problem by allowing you to distinguish between which
women are flirts who will not put out no matter who tries to seduce them, which girls are
interested in meeting ‘Mr Right’ and therefore susceptible to your seduction techniques,
and which girls are specifically interested or attracted to you even before you’ve
approached them.
The best place to start in regards to advanced scoping is by learning about wide-casting
– the way women subconsciously advertise the fact that they’re available and willing to
meet and possibly be seduced by a guy like you.
Wide-casting
Imagine you’re out of on the town with a few friends, you’re in a club you’ve been to a
few times before but never had any luck in as far as seducing girls goes. The place is
populated fairly evenly by men and women, about 50/50 in ratio. The females in the club
all, to an untrained eye, appear be doing the same thing – sitting around, dancing,
drinking at the bar, talking with friends, the usual stuff.
On the surface, it seems impossible to differentiate between the girls that would realistically be willing to allow a
guy to seduce and get with them, and the girls that for whatever reason simply would
not. Some women, after all, will be on their periods, have boyfriends, have weird issues
when it comes to being picked-up or hit on, who knows…
However, about 60-70% of those women are wide-casting that they are in fact able and
willing to be approached and seduced (if it’s done right!). They do this through their use
of body language and in the way they behave. Here’s how women subconsciously signal
that they’re “available” – sometimes even when they “officially” have a boyfriend or
husband.
Wide casting signal #1: Appearance
First things first, look at what a girl’s wearing. Women make themselves look attractive
by exaggerating and accentuating the differences they have with us men. That means
wearing clothes that show off the fact they have breasts (by showing cleavage), have
ass (by wearing tight jeans and rolling their hips sexily when they walk) and dancing
provocatively to demonstrate and show-off their curves and womanly ways. Any woman
that draws attention to her femininity and sexuality through the types of clothes she
chooses to wear subconsciously wants the attention of the opposite sex – us men. That
doesn’t, however, automatically mean they’ll always put out or respond well to other
seduction techniques.
We’ve all seen girls who act and look like sluts but suddenly become little miss innocent – insulted and shocked – when a guy draws attention to the
fact they’re attractive…like they didn’t know. So, despite their appearance not being a
solid indicator of their availability by itself, always analyze it as a matter of procedure
before looking for other signs of wide-casting and narrow-casting – it often gives you a
good idea of what’s going on in the mind of the girl.
Wide casting signal #2: Behaviour
Women – whether they’re ugly, average or scorching hot - subconsciously signal that
they’re interested in being approached, and maybe even seduced, by changing the way
they move and behave. Look out for girls that, even from a distance, are talking to each
other in an animated and full-of-life way. Girls gesticulate (illustrate what they’re saying
by waving around and otherwise using their hands) more when they want to wide-cast
their availability because it gets the attention of men around them.
You’ll often see a group of 3 or 4 girls with one or two talking much more energetically and enthusiastically
than the others – this is a perfect set-up for you, as the presence of other girls in the
group – the ones who aren’t as lively and animated – allows you to use several powerful
seduction techniques designed for use on a group of females.
